This is indefensible.
Now, I may not agree with Sierra. I may think that sometimes many of the points she makes are things I already knew, and may have said, just without the fancy graphs. But that's just an intellectual disagreement. We can have intellectual disagreements. We can even be kinda blunt or downright nasty in an intellectual disagreement...
Yet personal attacks of the sort that happened to Kathy--attacks that advocate violence, that disparage someone's gender, sexual preference, or physical attributes--are unjustifiable under any and all circumstances.
Most disturbing, though, Kathy's post clearly points to a tolerated dark underbelly of the blogosphere--a place where "boys will be boys" and assholes can go around saying things like "if you didn't have legs you'd leave a trail like a garden slug..." and others will think it's just bloody-darned-fuckin'-funny-free-speech....
When it isn't.
Scoble posted his thoughts on what's happened...notes that he's been threatened before, and has just brushed it off. But he realizes that what's been said to Kathy and about Kathy doesn't constitute something one can just brush off and move on. from Scoble:
It’s this culture of attacking women that has especially got to stop. I really don’t care if you attack me. I take those attacks in stride. But, whenever I post a video of a female technologist there invariably are snide remarks about body parts and other things that simply wouldn’t happen if the interviewee were a man.
Absolutely. Most of us deal with it our whole lives--esp. if we're pretty and smart. A lethal enough combination to make any beta male see red. It's the thing that, at times, makes me feel good about the ability to "frump it up" and disappear from most men's vision...
It's not just the tech culture either. Last year, longtime blogger Peggy Phillip, one of the few women executives, even fewer women tv executives, to ever blog, was forced to shutter her blog due to threats and intimidation similar to those levelled against Kathy...
Then again, I got a bit "cyberbullied" last January when I failed to support another woman blogger's participation on panel and merely suggested someone else might have been more appropriate...
There are lots of reasons for cyberbullying--none are acceptable.
Still, violence against women lurks in this space...across this great huge wonderful landscape. Like the Wild West, it has its Dark Underbelly, where horrific fantasies are bandied about by people who have some sort of strange dark thing living within them that wants to preserve some cro-magnonlike hierarchy of men over women. And some folks tolerate this. They say "boys will be boys" and let the Jack-the-Lads act up and act out, thinking that they can control them in some ways by letting them vent their spleens...
But that never works. Eventually, someone gets hurt. That "someone" is usually a woman--silenced by those who can't deal with their own sorry states of affairs...
The thing, though, that I find most disturbing in Kathy's case is not just that she found the meankids.org site--and that some people would find it funny to bash people in the manner that meankids.org was doing. Sure, there were times when Snappy the Clam was a hoot...but there's a line. And that line gets crossed when we openly say things that propose violence, suggest levels of degradation, and imply that the death of another individual is somehow a good thing. (yes, we may say certain things in private, among people who know we'd never do those things--but we should not take those things and put them out in the light of day. we should, perhaps, look at our venom and figure out what it is about that other person, who's probably minding his or her own business, that makes us feel that way. Why do we feel so inferior or so falsely righteous that we have to think that way about someone else? And then we should, perhaps, use that anger to motivate ourselves to change our own sorry states of affairs. Because it is indeed a truly sorry state of our own personal affairs that makes us "hate" another person to this level. Nazis were, after all, a bunch of self-hating cowards...)
Andy's set up a social network to start discussing this thing. And March 30 is Stop Cyberbullying Day....
We do indeed need to flush this out of our world in here. We can't necessarily cure the ills of the entire world, but we can start working so that others are not silenced in this space by threats of sexual assault, degredation, and murder.
Otherwise, none of us will be safe.
UpdateI've been following this one around, and have noticed that it is being whisper-down-the-lane misconstrued that the emailed threats to KS and the foul blog posts came from one guy--which they did not. Personally, I did not want to post any of her allegations of who made the remarks because I didn't want to repeat things that have not been proven. However, Chris Locke, one of the authors of The Cluetrain Manifesto, is taking some serious heat and gives an excellent response. I agree with Locke re the title of Sierra's blog "Creating Passionate Users" which I have always found massively offensive--just never got around to concocting up my own blog post as to exactly why I find it offensive. But now I'll say it: first, "users" is a demeaning term ussed by tech folks to discriminate against those they believe aren't smart enough to understand their code. Please. Grow up. It's not rocket science. Second, "users" aren't created by anyone. They use things and become loyal as acts of free will. Sierra's blog title always smacked of a certain post-Est/Forum stale incense that always made me itch.
But, it's an incense that's endemic in the Tech world...with its locus in the Silly Valley. If the emphasis of tech wasn't there, the sentiments it engenders would be very different...
But while I might pointeldy comment on Sierra's concepts and the thinking, I'm not about to attack the her in the manner that was set out in the emails and on those blog posts. That isn't how to get one's disagreeing point across. Nor am I going to levy blame on someone who, while ascerbic as Locke may be, appears to not be to blame for either the emails or the posts.
Also, Locke cannot be held libel for the words that someone else posted to a blog or message board he hosted. And if that's what people supporting Sierra end up leaning towards in their calls for action by law enforcement, they might want to look again at what they advocate--because, one day, the chickens may come to roost on their own palaces of Free Speech.
Update 4/4/07 Crusing around this evening I came across a follow-up on Silicon Valley Watcher that discusses a brokered meeting between Sierra and Locke (by O'Reilly.) O'Reilly, in the SF Chronicle:
"We need to say this is not acceptable behavior," said Tim O'Reilly, CEO of Sebastopol's O'Reilly Media, which publishes Sierra's books and runs the ETech conference where Sierra was scheduled to speak this week. "If you start making offensive comments, they will be deleted from a blog. Don't give people that platform."
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